As a psychic, I often marvel at the love, the compassion, and the kindness many of my clients show even in the face of adversity. However, I have also had opportunities to witness the anger of spited souls. “How can I get back at him (or her)?” is a question I hear time and again from those who, dealing with deep hurt, long to exact their revenge.
What a terrible, terrible idea.
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” is the golden rule that echoes tenets from various religions. In non-confessional terms, this translates as “Be mindful of whatever energy you unleash into the universe, for you will invariably get it back.” When it comes to dealing with hurt, forgiveness is always the best option. By letting go, you release any connection, thus attaining freedom. On the other hand, resentment establishes an attachment with the source of your upset—one that is bound to perpetuate your unhappiness. If you seek revenge, this unhealthy connection will weigh you down with an even greater burden.
A far cry from embracing victimhood, the practice of conscious forgiving does not turn you into a doormat; on the contrary, it liberates you from the spell of grief. Disentangle your emotions from the people who hurt you and release them into the universe. Move on and let them live their lives the best they can as you do the same. This approach will propel you through a spurt of spiritual growth. However, the task may be daunting.
A common obstacle to letting go is the need to be heard: your heart has been broken, but those who did it will not listen. What to do? If you are unable to let go, my suggestion is to flag their karma. You do so by energetically earmarking an event in somebody’s karmic history the way you would highlight a passage in a novel. Ultimately, the goal of flagging an event in somebody’s life history is to draw their attention to it.
As we move through life and hopefully mature spiritually and emotionally, we all become aware of the impact our choices have on others. In some cases, this awareness develops while we are still in our current incarnation, giving us a chance to make amends. If it does not, other opportunities will arise. One of these is the life review that near-death-experience survivors frequently report. Unlike the divine (and therefore external) judgement found in some religions, the evaluation that takes place shortly after our passing is a self–assessment. Nobody else will judge us; instead, we will examine the impact of actions on other people’s lives. When this happens, we will look at ourselves through the eyes of others, feeling the emotions our actions triggered in them. There will be no punishment involved, only awareness. In fact, the purpose of the life review is the realization that we are all part of one and the same consciousness.
Flagging a moment in somebody’s karmic history will have them pay close attention. In case they did not do so before, at the time of their life review they will listen! This practice only requires your focused intention along with the emotion and the energy that will carry this message to its destination. Rest assured that your missive will not alter its recipients’ destiny and will not add to their karmic burden (or yours, for that sake); instead, it will simply ensure a level of connected understanding that could not be achieved before.
Since in a life review no stone is ever left unturned, one may safely surmise that this awareness would emerge no matter what. If this is the case, why flag an event? The advantage is that this action will help you make peace with the situation. There is comfort in knowing that the emotions you have been unable to communicate will, eventually, be fully understood; there is even more solace in the awareness that you are an active participant in the process through which consciousness realizes itself. Why be a pawn to resentment when you can be an agent of growth?
 Unfortunately, many religious congregations circumvent this rule by restricting its application to members of their own community.
 As the quote goes, “pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.” On this topic, see Eckard Tolle’s A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (Oprah’s Book Club, Selection 61)
 On this practice, see Luis Minero’s definition of “thosene” in his Demystifying the Out-of-Body Experience: A Practical Manual for Exploration and Personal Evolution
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